The season for wedding planning is upon us.
Enter Pinterest, magazines, tastings and fittings. Crafting, dance lessons, frostings and meetings.
It's a time with a rhythm and excitement galore. Plan for hours on end and then plan some more. But collaborate with your fiancé — don't make it a power play.
Things are going so well with the florists and vendors. You've even got a few musical contenders.
And then, sometimes, it stops. The dream life you were briefly living—it felt poetic, even—suddenly becomes a harsh reality and life isn't all about wedding planning anymore.
In my case, it was job loss. My husband's entire department was eliminated unexpectedly about six weeks after we got engaged. A fresh college graduate, I hadn't yet found work.
We decided to apply for jobs all over the country: New York, Los Angeles, Portland. We didn't know when an offer would come or how quickly we'd have to move away from Atlanta. It was important to us to be married before we moved to a new city, so in July, a few weeks into wedding planning, we canceled all the arrangements we'd made for a December celebration.
We hatched a new plan for an August wedding.
We spent the next month juggling job searching and wedding planning. A few days before the wedding I got an official offer from The Oregonian. When we returned from our honeymoon, we packed our things and drove across the country.
We couldn't have been happier with the way our wedding turned out, but planning it was hard—really hard. Not just logistically, but emotionally.
December is the most popular month for engagements, according to a survey from XO Groups, which owns The Knot. Congratulations to those of you who got engaged during the holiday! Most of you will have nice, long engagements, with plenty of time for poetic planning fun.
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